Monday, 22 September 2014

Hello? Is it me you're looking for?

Hey stranger!

I will tell you that this keeping up with the blog thing is hard work.

Mostly when everything hits you at once. This class I am taking makes me want to pull mine and the professors hair out. I also got hit with a last minute work suspense and then created some of my own waves in the work place.

I have found myself in one of those "sounding like my first supervisors" moments. I am not anyone's supervisor at this moment but I have a general idea of what it is suppose to look like and how it is suppose to work. From the top and the bottom. I threw the flag in on someone else court. Some would say I over stepped my boundaries but so far most people I sought advice from, agreed with my decision. I think it has created a ripple effect. Our senior leaders finally have light of what is really going on in our unit and are starting to get a handle on it and are addressing it.  I created some tension and I probably burned some bridges but what can I do now?

Ace surprised me this weekend. He was supposed to only be in town for 12 hours between trips and wasn't planning on driving up to my place. Instead, he came home a bit early (14 hours, watch out!) and came up for the night. Goose and I were both pleasantly surprised. Goose more than me I think. He is quite taken with Ace.

Goose had an accident today at school. While playing with his 2 best friends, they had a three stooges moment, with Goose taking the brunt of it. Goose now has a goose egg on his forehead. Typically when these things happen I take them well. The gentleman from the daycare that called to informed me unsettled me a bit. I came in like a tornado... and here is Goose running around playing like nothing ever happened. This kid.

I also tried something new. I have been playing with the idea of making my own soap for a while and took the plunge today. I found the recipe at Kathi Lipp Your Life on Purpose. I was so excited after I mixed all my ingredients, I stripped my uniform and washed right away. Now, I just have to wear these clothes for a few weeks and see how they hold up (and my skin) with the new soap.

I found all the ingredients at my local Wal-Mart. Right in the same section. Seriously, I didn't even walk a foot to find all of these items.

(1) 4 lb 12 oz box of Borax
(1) 4 lb box Arm & Hammer Baking Soda
(1) 3 lb 7 oz box Arm & Hammer Super Washing Soda
(3) bars of Fels-Naptha soap (or Zote)
3 lb container of Oxy Clean
1 container Purex Crystals

I underestimated the size of the container I needed to store this. I would say get a good 2 gallon bucket and one smaller one for what you need for say, the month. I used a cheese grater and really, it took me about 5 minutes tops to shave the soap. Others have talked about using a microwave to melt it and turn it into a power, others have used their food processer. I on the other hand just dedicated an old grater to the job and some elbow grease. Worked perfect.

You are supposed to use only about 2 tablespoons per load. I have an HE top loading machine. I removed the liquid dispenser to be able to use it for powder dispensing. I will monitor the machine for wear and tear. The 12ish lbs of soap this made I suspect will last me all year. With the amount that I spend on Tide/All Free products, I hope this works for the best.

Wish me luck!

Tuesday, 9 September 2014

Dating a Pilot

So say you stumbled across my blog because you want to know more about dating a pilot. You want to know if they all cheat. You want to know if they all fantasize banging their flight attendants. You want to know if the distance ever gets easier. I say that it is no different than dating a doctor. Yes, some date nurses, yes some cheat at work, but that doesn't make it the majority. Lawyers have paralegals, CEOs have hot secretaries. It is a close environment and it is the people they know and get. It is easy to date someone who is in the same profession. And yes, men and women become infatuated. I'll get to the distance part later.

If your man is a loyal one, then he will fantasize for a moment but eventually the infatuation fades and they are just another face at work. You cannot blame people for being human. I am sure that you have come across people that you have had a spark with and if given a large amount of time together, you may find yourself curious. But that doesn't mean you are going to act upon that impulse. Just like your pilot may not act upon them. Do not through them all into one bucket.

Dating a pilot can be fun. They are impulsive to a fault but that can be a good thing for you. If you were to get benefits you could fly anywhere for a few nights get away. Maybe just go to a theme park for a day, eat oysters in Seattle, and relax on a beach in Hawaii. They don't have work to bring home. Their time off is their time off. And when you spend so much time apart... there is a lot of making up for lost time to do :)

I remember when I first started dating Ace, I didn't care that he was a pilot. It seemed easy. He would be home 3 days, gone for 4, I could live like that. I love my own space and thought that would give us time to miss each other.

Then he got hired as a flight instructor. Which is in another state. This meant weeks at a time apart. First he had to get his new rating. That was 6 weeks of class in St. Louis. Now, after he got his rating and became a certified instructor, he spends anywhere from 1-3 weeks at a time there with very few days in between the next class. Sometimes we get lucky and have 7 days together.

There are so many things that can drive you crazy in this kind of relationship. Communication is the very first thing I can think of. It is easy to get caught up in your own life and put the other person to the side. It is also easy to be the person who is waiting all day just to hear from someone. No matter how strong you are, how secure you are in your own life, sometimes the pilot life gets to you. You hear the guys joking about so and so and the flight attendant he go busted with. You hear about those who lead two lives. You know there is plenty of room for one night stands in that kind of environment and it gets in your head.

What you have to do is evaluate yourself and your partner. Is your pilot the kind that makes you worry? If so, maybe you need to work on deepening your bond or really ask yourself if this is how you want to live. If your pilot never gives you reason to be concerned then you have to do a better job of getting out of your own head. We can create issues that are not even there just by simply over thinking and using our imagination. Your imagination is a powerful tool. You can think of a situation and raise your blood pressure, your body temperature and make your own heart race. You can cause yourself to become physically ill over something that hasn't even happened or may never even be plausible.

I have found myself all over with this. If I am feeling insecure, then you can bet that I am being a bat shit crazy woman for no reason. Then sometimes, I get so busy, I forget to make my pilot feel special. I think that if you are communicating properly and feeding each other's needs, then those insecurities subside and the balance is returned. If one person becomes to selfish and self-involved in a LDR then it is easy for the other person to feel hurt and neglected as well.

Ace and I have talked about love languages. We try to make sure that we are speaking those to each other. He likes words of affirmation and I like acts of kindness. Sometimes we may fall into physical or material but those tend to be if we are feeling insecure and are looking to fill our cup by any means necessary.

Even if you are feeling neglected, do not attack him. Respect him and talk to him like he is your loving partner, explain to him how you are feel empty and what you need. Do not point fingers or blame, after all you have been forewarned how hard this life can be. Be patient and be kind. It is hard on them too even if they do not show it.

One other thing I must mention when dating a pilot is you have to be independent. You cannot rely on him to come home and fix your sink when it breaks or be at blame because he wasn't there when you blew a tire. Become a strong woman who can turn a wrench, mow her own lawn, handle majority of the household crisis. I cannot tell you how many times Ace has told me how re-assuring that is to him. Even me painting my kitchen. He was talking to a group of pilots about it and they were in awe. Their wives/gf would never take on such a project by themselves. I ask, why not? You are just as capable and you find deep satisfaction knowing you are kind of badass on your own.

Monday, 8 September 2014

Hey you!

Here I am!

I faded out the last few weeks due to a few things. Goose and I both have been sick, I have some unknown inflammation in my ribs and nope, my kitchen is still not finished. I was able to get the frame and the back of the cabinet doors done. Now I just need to flip them and finish the front. I have also started Astronomy and this class is more than I bargained for. I finished my painting for Ace, it was a KC135. I got some inspiration from a few places online and of course mine didn't even come close to what I saw, but it still looks great. I originally painted it for his birthday but I am terrible at secrets and gave it to him early. He loved it! He swears he is taking it to UPT with him but that might be a bit embarrassing for him later down the road.

We made a trip up to Idaho this weekend to see Aces grandparents. Goose loves it up there and so do I. There are no stop lights, just stop signs. There are hay and potato fields everywhere and cows as far as your eyes can see. The scenery is beautiful too. This trip, we made it out to the City of Rocks National Reserve. This place is jaw dropping.

I am not sure many people even know this place exist. This place was many immigrants on their way for a bigger life through the California Trail. In 1852 almost 52,000 people passed through on their way to the gold fields. There is a rock called Camp Rock where many signed their name in wheel oil as they passed through. I took a many pictures of course and there was Goose in 90% of them climbing and exploring. Our stop was quick but we plan to come back and hopefully camp and explore more.

On another note... I have completely slacked in the diet and fitness section of my life. It is hard when Ace is home to behave. He often wants to take me out to eat rather than me having to mess the kitchen up. Or we like to unwind and have terribly sugary drinks together. It is an evil cycle. I don't have any specific goals in mind at the moment but the one I know I need to plan for is the winter. Winter is coming and with that so are the pies and bread and mashed potatoes I love so much. I would like to survive winter without too much damage. In order to do this, I have to get back to the hard work and dedication and remember that everything comes should be enjoyed with portion control. So to get ready for what is to come, I am working on small resolutions, one season at a time.

My fall resolutions:
Finish crocheting a blanket.
Work out at least 3-4 times a week. Go no more than two days without some type of fitness activity.
Lose another 2-5% body fat.
Blog at least 3 times a week.
Paint two more pictures.

That is what, 3 months to get it all done? Not too ambitious :)